As one of the oldest professions in history, sex work has had a varied reputation. However, what is clear is that the client base of these workers is diverse and wide. In fact, research by the Prostitution Licensing Authority in Australia suggests that at least one in every 30 men in Queensland has purchased sex in the last year, though the real figure may be substantially higher.
For those who are new to the experience, it can be both exciting and nerve racking. In order to make things go over smooth and ensure your time and money are well spent, it’s good to have a clear understanding of brothel etiquette before you go in. Here are some things to consider before you go ahead with the experience.
Set clear rules beforehand.
Ask all the questions you need to in order to feel comfortable and be 100% sure of exactly what sexual acts are allowed during the consult. Many go in thinking that anything is allowed, and they can be disappointed to learn that there are strict rules.
Respect the workers.
Above all you have to respect the woman you are working with. Many men fall into the trap of dehumanizing the worker. It’s important to be empathetic and understand that they’re doing a job and wanted to be treated well. New workers may be nervous or in the dark, so it’s important that you aren’t pushy and you respect their boundaries.
Don’t expect pornography.
Despite what you may have seen in movies or in pornography, a brothel is not an ‘anything goes’ type of place. This links back to the earlier point about setting clear rules ahead of time, don’t be afraid to ask specific questions.
Be cautious when questioning about their private lives.
Many of the workers will be happy to discuss a wide range of topics with you, but it is important that you don’t ask personal questions without their permission.
This means you shouldn’t come in intoxicated or belligerent. The brothel will have the right to throw anyone out who is a public nuisance or who appears like they could be a threat to the girls.
Don’t jump right in.
Taking your clothes off as soon as the door closes shows a little bit of immaturity and can be uncomfortable for the girl. Take your time beforehand to build at least a little bit of rapport so that they feel comfortable enough around you.
Remember that you have a responsibility to approach the situation with a level head. Though the sex industry may have some connotations connected to it that lower some peoples inhibitions, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat it as you would any other professional business. To do so will make sure you have a great experience and are in a position to go back in the future.